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Before We Visit the Goddess – Book Review

So, I don’t know about you, but I am always up for a good read.  Want a recommendation?  I got one for ya! Recently I read a work of art in literature by one of my favorite authors, and I wanted to take some time to tell you about it.

Chitra Banerjee Divakurni published ‘Before We Visit the Goddess’ in April of 2016. It is a powerful novel from the award-winning author of Palace of Illusions, Sister of My Heart and Arranged Marriage: Stories.  The novel weaves the tale of three generations of transcontinental Indian mothers and daughters who discover that their greatest source of strength is one another. They are a family torn apart and brought back together through the bonds of family, regardless of the hurdles they face.

The three women’s stories are musical like explosions of love, loss, and forgiveness that astound you with the poetic ease of the writing style.

The website www.goodreads.com has given the book 3.75 stars.  I give it 4 stars out of 4,  because it is in my top 10 of must read books.

Sabitri is the daughter of a poor and rural family, who desires an education but makes a mistake in love, in her one opportunity to obtain that education.  Sabitri’s daughter Bela is impacted by her mother’s misstep, which later leads to struggles in Bela’s marriage. These challenges imprint Bela’s daughter Tara with lessons about loyalty, love and believing in yourself.  The novel also has a beautiful emphasis on female empowerment and education.

I am a Houston, Texas native, which is where Bela and Tara live, and I found it noteworthy that the author’s accuracy of the description as it relates to highways, and  a famous restaurant Niko Niko’s was spot on.

The inter blending of the Indian and American culture via the epigraphs from Manusmriti and Jean Thompson at the beginning of the novel were beautiful touches due to the novel straddling both India and America.

Above all, the most moving piece of the novel for me was the letter that Bela asked her mother Sabitri to write to Tara about her educational decisions.  It appears at the beginning and end of the novel.  A belief in fate and God could be provided as an explanation for the way, and timing of which, Bela actually receives this letter.

The below was a life lesson in the form of poetry, in my opinion. Chitra Banerjee Divakaruni is a talented artist of words so keenly connected to our Indian culture.  The relevance of the below paragraph’s final sentence can be tied into a proverb of a good woman Sabitri’s mother shared with her, which was too backward for Sabitri. The proverb said ‘Good daughters are fortunate lamps brightening the family’s name.  Wicked daughter’s are firebrands, blackening the family’s name.’

‘One day, in the kitchen at the back of the store, I held in my hand a new recipe I had perfected, the sweet I would go on to name after my dead mother. I took a bite of the conch-shaped dessert, the palest most elegant mango color.  The smooth, creamy flavor of fruit and milk, sugar and saffron mingled and melted on my tongue. Satisfaction overwhelmed me. This was something I had achieved by myself, without having to depend on anyone. No one could take it away.  That’s what I want for you, my Tara, my Bela. That’s what it really means to be a fortunate lamp.’

May all woman be fortunate lamps, but only by Sabitri’s definition of it.

First Blog Post + a little pumpkin spice

Hi, if you are reading this post, then lucky you! Just kidding. Well, kind of. This is my first personal blog post. This is tough for me, because generally I am a private person. Regardless, here I am, spilling it all out on the world wide web.  The truth is, I am an aspiring author, and so it is time that I had a medium to publicly express that passion for writing. I have been working on a memoir close to my heart for the past couple of years. 

I thought it would be fun to have a blog where I could share some life hacks, book reviews and recommendations, a blog series, recipes, fun facts, and other cool stuff that comes to my mind (or yours!). Do you have a topic that you would like to see me write about? Please share. When it is time for my blog series, I will welcome guest entries, so send a shout out at that time! My goal is to publish at least one post every 2 weeks, and I hope you will be a part of this journey. 

So, enough about me, though I know you are dying to know more. 🙂 Who here is excited for fall?  Pumpkin spice ANYTHING, honeycrisp apples, and colorful leaves make me feel all warm inside. Here is a quick recipe for homemade pumpkin spice candles.  I love the pumpkin butter jars from trader joes, and made my candle in it (could not bring myself to throw it away when the spread was all done!). In case you don’t have a label you like on your candle jar and you want one, print out, cut, and tape this freebie label I have provided onto your jar (double sided tape should hold it in place).  https://anitakharbanda.com/pumpkin-spiced-label-4/

Pumpkin Spice Candle Making Directions:
Supplies: wax chips (Amazon sells them) or unscented/white candles you already have,  Candle Wicks, glass jar or candle holder (like I said I love my pumpkin butter jar from trader joes), a chopstick (or a wooden skewer, or a popsicle stick), yellow and red liquid dye, pumpkin spice fragrance oil, and a heatproof glass container.

Life hack: I used a 30% off coupon on all regularly priced items at Michaels, so don’t forget to google coupons for your favorite craft stores. Also, use the extras of the supplies you bought to make candles for friends, or save them to make pumpkin spice candles again next year.  If you want to take it a step further on the resourcefulness (I am a self-admitted cheap-o when it comes to maximizing the use of things), you can save the wicks you cut off from the top of the candle and attach them to tabs from old candles to use in the future (just place the wicks into the tab, and tighten the tab a bit around the wick with small pliers).

These directions are for one candle, but make as many as you want as gifts, since you will have all of the supplies anyway!

  1. First, Buy wax chips (amazon sells them, and a good rule of thumb is that 1 lb of chips yields 16 fl. oz of wax)  OR just use old unscented, white candles that you have at home. I used six 1¼” tall votive candles I had at home, and cut them off of the wick/tab, which was the perfect amount for the 10 oz trader joes jar.

2. Second, place wax chips or broken up candle pieces into a heatproof glass container. Heat in microwave for 1 minute and then stir. Repeat in 1 minute increments until fully melted.

3. Next, dip your wick into the melted wax container, and then move it into the center of your candle jar. Tie the top of the wick to a skewer/chopstick/popsicle stick. Rest the skewer/chopstick/popsicle stick across top of jar until wax dries.

4. Now, return to the glass container full of the melted wax. Add drops of liquid dye to the melted wax, using a 1-to-3 ratio of red dye to yellow dye; and then stir. Continue adding the dyes in the above ratios until the wax turns orange. Stir in about 40 drops of pumpkin fragranced oil per one cup of liquid.

5. Pour the colored/scented liquid wax into your candle jar, leaving a 1/4-inch rim at the top. Let sit in the fridge for about 10 minutes.

6. Lastly, cut your wick and you’re done.

Hope you enjoy it! Comment on this post letting me know how you liked the candles.

I bid you adieu with a fun fact: 7% of Americans believe that chocolate milk comes from brown cows.  (Oh shoot, you are one of them aren’t you?)

Feel free to contact me with questions. Thank you for stopping by!

More to come in a couple of weeks. Same bat time.  Same bat place. Note to self: need more time with adults.